tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1054440755657956327.comments2024-02-27T09:16:34.452-05:00Stories About My UnderpantsBeckyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05299540194000326688noreply@blogger.comBlogger2952125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1054440755657956327.post-53125046699133433842019-01-10T15:07:28.205-05:002019-01-10T15:07:28.205-05:00Thanks so much for reading - I hope you'll fol...Thanks so much for reading - I hope you'll follow me over at www.uncuratedmama.com and we can exchange stories! And congratulations on your baby (and the cats!) :-)Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05299540194000326688noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1054440755657956327.post-54825946961335604272018-12-19T13:38:02.860-05:002018-12-19T13:38:02.860-05:00It will pass, and when it does, you will miss it. ...It will pass, and when it does, you will miss it. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07775408446221930005noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1054440755657956327.post-91715789929964468032018-12-09T23:56:00.994-05:002018-12-09T23:56:00.994-05:00No, don't stop! I mean, you do you, but I wil...No, don't stop! I mean, you do you, but I will definitely read whatever you toss out here when you have a chance. Sounds like you guys are doing great, or at least as well as expected with two young'uns. <br /><br />I only have one almost-7-month old so far, but we recently moved and now the cats randomly decide to not use the litter box. So it's a literal crapshoot as to whether there are not-mine bodily fluids on me or the floor or one of the cute little runts I live with. Cute and gross are not mutually exclusive, but at least they're cute. Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09271065849114658992noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1054440755657956327.post-40267263348894108012018-12-06T12:51:36.130-05:002018-12-06T12:51:36.130-05:00Haha I’ll take it as a sign, I like the way you th...Haha I’ll take it as a sign, I like the way you think! Makes me feel better that you can relate, too. I’m not alone! (See today’s post for more worries 😉) Keep at it, mama!Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05299540194000326688noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1054440755657956327.post-27605517174213984002018-10-03T11:47:42.031-04:002018-10-03T11:47:42.031-04:00You hit the nail on the head, woman!
It's lik...You hit the nail on the head, woman!<br /><br />It's like being a hamster in a wheel, always running, trying to be a great mom, great wife, great employee, friend, sister, and daughter, and not really excelling at any of them, or at least feeling that way. And not only that, but it's the guilt of trying to carve out a little time for yourself, the guilt of lack of patience, focus, being "in the moment". I agree. We need to talk to each other - we're not in it alone, and maybe this is exactly what it is to be a mom. Maybe this is a sign we are doing things right!Pattihttp://www.instagram.com/designamytenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1054440755657956327.post-28196169897450459872018-08-27T15:22:10.388-04:002018-08-27T15:22:10.388-04:00Couldn't have said it better! Welcome back!Couldn't have said it better! Welcome back!Patti-attihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08808682990863014249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1054440755657956327.post-12279506483926667172018-01-09T15:10:08.680-05:002018-01-09T15:10:08.680-05:00I know, I know...I really SHOULD care about loadin...I know, I know...I really SHOULD care about loading the dishwasher, but....Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05299540194000326688noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1054440755657956327.post-51004988270820827192018-01-09T12:31:46.351-05:002018-01-09T12:31:46.351-05:00I feel like you are reading my mind. Except the di...I feel like you are reading my mind. Except the dishwasher part, because giiiirrrrlllllllllllllPatti-attihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08808682990863014249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1054440755657956327.post-21671970513344349182017-12-05T23:36:12.516-05:002017-12-05T23:36:12.516-05:00You did better than I would have. When people emo...You did better than I would have. When people emotion at me I have one of two responses, sit and wait awkwardly for it to end, or walk away and pretend it didn't happen.<br /><br />My best friend moved across the country and we just said goodbye and that was it. She is a hugger, and comes from a family of huggers. Apparently our awkward goodbye (which I was totally cool with) was a topic of conversation for HOURS on the drive because her mother didn't understand the complete lack of emotion or physical contact at our goodbye.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1054440755657956327.post-87307532013733483182017-10-17T08:23:09.704-04:002017-10-17T08:23:09.704-04:00It's insane. THESE ARE THE GOOD STORIES. I thi...It's insane. THESE ARE THE GOOD STORIES. I think that's what people aren't wrapping their heads around. Every single woman I know has a number of these, and they're almost non-events because they're so commonplace. THAT'S the problem!Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05299540194000326688noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1054440755657956327.post-44147920950952267492017-10-16T17:07:01.766-04:002017-10-16T17:07:01.766-04:00Exactly why I didn't cut and paste: Me, too. W...Exactly why I didn't cut and paste: Me, too. We have all been there. In an interview to become a sports writer: "Why, as a woman, do you want this job?" A football coach once said he didn't like talking to me about sports: "It's like talking to my daughter." And the constant coaches/players asking inappropriate questions about my personal life. And, again, these are the good stories. HBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08080056237035410092noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1054440755657956327.post-70624093014644811372017-10-11T08:07:37.064-04:002017-10-11T08:07:37.064-04:00100%. And historically, women HAVEN'T done it ...100%. And historically, women HAVEN'T done it alone - it's just that it used to be the other elders in their village/neighborhood, mothers, grandmothers, aunts, etc. So it's never meant to be a solo venture, and for those who ARE doing it solo? You're my hero!Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05299540194000326688noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1054440755657956327.post-10052278326829387692017-10-11T08:06:31.950-04:002017-10-11T08:06:31.950-04:00Totally agree - everyone has a different situation...Totally agree - everyone has a different situation and different needs. I'm so glad yours worked for you!! Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05299540194000326688noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1054440755657956327.post-43061091481950827512017-10-10T22:07:21.136-04:002017-10-10T22:07:21.136-04:00And it turns out I'm a better mother knowing I...And it turns out I'm a better mother knowing I have help. We shouldn't have to do this mothering thing on our own -- and certainly not against other moms!Anna Crowehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07072192022912785188noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1054440755657956327.post-76038895344988465422017-10-10T20:58:39.462-04:002017-10-10T20:58:39.462-04:00You know, I changed my own judgmental paradigm whe...You know, I changed my own judgmental paradigm when I *had* to go to work with a 6-month old. Whaddya know... my daughter is all the better for being exposed to many different kinds of people from infancy. Her caretaker was from Sri Lanka; the other boy and girl were of different ethnicities. And because she got used to sharing her day with different kinds of people from that young young age, she had zero traumatic separation issues with preschool, and then she was totally ready to learn in kindergarten. This is *my* story; it's neither better nor worse than others, but the right one for me and my kid. <br /><br />There isn't "one right way" to parent! If we all did the exact same things with our kids we would have a boring world. Each family needs to create their own space in the world and make it work for them. #nothingbutloveAnna Crowehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07072192022912785188noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1054440755657956327.post-59209618688960152872017-10-10T17:13:31.450-04:002017-10-10T17:13:31.450-04:00Having help is everything, and having help like th...Having help is everything, and having help like that, where they're patient with you and helping you through this maze that is parenting, is life-changing. We have that at daycare and I literally don't know what I'd do without them!Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05299540194000326688noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1054440755657956327.post-63925178604785212502017-10-10T16:25:21.648-04:002017-10-10T16:25:21.648-04:00I promise, if it wasn't for a homecare worker ...I promise, if it wasn't for a homecare worker - wonderful elderly lady - who cared for my child her first year while I went back to work, we wouldn't have been as successful as parents. I LOVED that woman. My daughter thrived there. And the woman was so patient with us as new parents, suggesting things like, "It might be time to start her on solids ... or ... you might want to see if she will turn over for you." She said things in ways that made us feel we'd be seeing it for the first time. It was a wonderful arrangement. Sorry for your elevator mishap. Next time that happens, hit the alarm button before walking off;)Kym Klasshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07892008706643080454noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1054440755657956327.post-8844629511492786422017-10-10T13:56:37.831-04:002017-10-10T13:56:37.831-04:00Yes! We've had the exact same experience! The ...Yes! We've had the exact same experience! The daycare could not be better and our girls absolutely love it there. They're definitely thriving and learning things that I simply couldn't teach them or wouldn't even know how! I'm forever grateful to the women at their daycare, they're like extended family! Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05299540194000326688noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1054440755657956327.post-71821122312955447402017-10-10T13:14:46.706-04:002017-10-10T13:14:46.706-04:00I hear you! The nice ladies at the day care center...I hear you! The nice ladies at the day care center knew more about raising kids than I did! Also, I love my daughter, but I also love my career. I shouldn't have to choose between both. That is why day care centers exist. My daughter also loved going to day care because she got to play with her friends and not hang out with her boring mom all day!Lisa Pnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1054440755657956327.post-17280019809564086812017-09-28T08:27:51.686-04:002017-09-28T08:27:51.686-04:00Right?? Take that, CB! We're not all huggers! ...Right?? Take that, CB! We're not all huggers! :-) Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05299540194000326688noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1054440755657956327.post-76346414581285709772017-09-27T16:28:54.252-04:002017-09-27T16:28:54.252-04:00I think you totally did the right thing! You were ...I think you totally did the right thing! You were being incredibly sensitive to her needs. CB doesn't know what he talks about. WE'RE NOT ALL HUGGERS. Emeliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08996278385582582717noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1054440755657956327.post-20120666496552713712017-09-25T14:04:41.905-04:002017-09-25T14:04:41.905-04:00Yes! Mine are too little for it to really show yet...Yes! Mine are too little for it to really show yet, but my guess is at least one of them will be roboting themselves through life with hugs. I'll be their ally ;-) Glad I'm not the only one!Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05299540194000326688noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1054440755657956327.post-16422945598509826212017-09-25T14:03:35.828-04:002017-09-25T14:03:35.828-04:00I know exactly how you feel!!! I'm not a hugge...I know exactly how you feel!!! I'm not a hugger at all, it makes my skin crawl and I feel horribly claustrophobic. Unfortunately a lot of people are huggers and never ask, or maybe it doesn't occur to them that not everyone is. Glad I'm not the only one. Of course my girls are different, I will hug them. My youngest is not a hugger either and I always make sure, she knows its ok not to be a hugger! BrocanteuseRosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04904302094711336419noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1054440755657956327.post-67690359169222718122017-09-18T15:36:10.368-04:002017-09-18T15:36:10.368-04:00Aw, thank you! That's a good reminder. ESPECIA...Aw, thank you! That's a good reminder. ESPECIALLY during snot-crying! :-) hugs right back!Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05299540194000326688noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1054440755657956327.post-16578907340745869362017-09-18T15:33:30.792-04:002017-09-18T15:33:30.792-04:00You are doing a great job! Just remember that not ...You are doing a great job! Just remember that not only when everything is going well I.e. when you and your delightful toddler just made organic pancakes from scratch, while unicorns and rainbows cavorted above your heads, but remember it when your rocking in a ball on the floor in your closet snot crying cause you feel awful. You are doing a great job!! Seriously, we have all been there, and will be again. Just whisper or scream to yourself that you are a great mom, doing a great job!!! hugs :) BrocanteuseRosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04904302094711336419noreply@blogger.com