Wednesday, February 13, 2013

On why the Bill of Rights isn't ever romantic and how Valentine's Day can get confusing quickly.


I love love. I also happen to love Valentine’s Day, which opens me up to ridicule every single year from beloved friends and family who totally don’t know how to get on board with celebrating every holiday to the max.

Courtney: I don’t understand why on earth you like this made-up holiday.
Me: I love love and I’m impervious to your judgment.
Me: It’s Valentine’s Day Week!
CB: Seriously? You’ve turned the one day into an entire week?
Me: Um yes. Have we met? This is how I roll. I love love.
  
However, I think maybe I’m doing love wrong? Because I just read an article where nearly every single “tip” about how to romance it up on Valentine’s Day left me realizing that either CB has gotten the tremendously short end of the stick, or people who write love tip articles have closed head injuries.

You be the judge.

1. Do things in a big way: Craig liked doing things in a big way. He was a dramatic and loud (though lovable) kind of guy. Mary, on the other hand, was proper and quiet (and just as lovable). Craig sometimes criticized Mary for not being expressive or outrageous enough. Until . . . one day when Craig returned home from a business trip and was greeted by Mary and two hundred forty-three members of the local high school marching band on their front lawn.

"I can help you bring in the noise,
the funk....and the sweet, sweet lovin'."
Ok, a couple points to be made here. One, I appreciate the writer drawing me in by giving names to this couple. Right away, I totally understand who Craig and Mary are, though I doubt she’s quite as lovable as he is. However, I’m unclear about just who would consider John Philip Sousa marches romantic. Nonetheless, I can appreciate the gesture that Mary is making here, and for that, she receives one point. 

However, if I came home to a two hundred and forty-three member marching band in CB’s studio apartment, a few things would happen: 1, I’d immediately begin worrying for CB’s safety and wonder where he was, since he would likely be crushed by the tuba player who was layered up on top of the trombonist because his apartment is approximately 400 square feet. 2, I’d wonder where CB met a high school marching band in his free time and would perhaps have to begin a conversation about hobbies.  Either way, romance lost, moment ruined.

Moving on.

2Go through revolving doors together.

I basically just skipped right over this one because it’s the most ridiculous thing I’ve ever heard. But let’s play this one out, just for kicks.

First of all, shoving yourself into a revolving door with your partner isn’t romantic. It’s mildly terrifying and probably a fire hazard. Also, you’d be so busy giving each other footing orders on how to properly make it through this moment alive and without face planting into the glass, that you’d totally forget that you were supposed to be sharing a romantic moment altogether.

Uh, and don’t even try to give each other a peck or anything. That’s just asking for a Bridget Jones moment, and you’re probably not even getting to kiss Colin Firth. Not worth it.


3. Practice "Even-Day/Odd-Day" Romance: On even days it's your turn to be romantic, and on odd days it's your partner's turn.

Yeah, I’m just going to go ahead and say that this sounds way too close to a math story problem for me, and so I’d have to skip the love all around. Also, what if one of you was sick on your even/odd day? Does the other person take over romance duties? What if you’re too sick for romance? And then do you double-up? And then when do you decide who’s day it is after you’ve each done double-duty after you got over pneumonia?

It’s very complicated, gives me anxiety, and also sounds like something unsustainable – like dieting. Again, romance lost, no love for CB. 

4. Want to jazz up the presentation of a special meal? Buy a little hunk of dry ice from a local ice house. Put it in a bowl of water and place it on your serving tray. You'll create wondrous, billowing white clouds!

Oh sweet Lord, please don’t “jazz up” my food. I’m barely able to wait for us to both be served before diving in as it is because I’m like a bear who’s been hibernating all winter. Also, if there was weird, billow-y smoke coming from the serving tray I didn’t know we owned, I’d probably worry that it was on fire, run to get the fire extinguisher, and put out the fake romance fire. Thus, ruining the entire meal altogether. And, most likely, the romance. Because that foam-y extinguisher stuff is hard to get out of the carpet, and I hate a mess. 

Truth. 

5. Dress up for dinner at home. Tuxedo for him, evening gown for her.

This could work for CB if he wasn’t dating a Golden Girl. The first order of business when I walk through the door is to immediately take my clothes off, and not in a romantic, Victoria’s Secret-type way, either. I’m like “Ugh, I need my house pants, stat!” while CB sits there and counts all the ways he can’t believe he got so lucky.

Also, CB is bringing the perfect amount of romance on Thursday by taking me out to dinner, and so I made sure to really class up the moment by asking him if I had to wear a skirt, which then caused me anxiety over clothing options. So, let’s just go ahead and assume I don’t own an evening gown, m’kay?


6. Hire a pianist to play during a romantic dinner at home.

Please don’t do this. First of all, not only will you have to hire a pianist, but you’ll have to ask him to bring his own piano, and then it just gets weird for all parties involved.

Also, let’s think this through. While it might be quaint for a few minutes, it’d get weird REAL fast. I mean, not only is there a stranger playing music in your living room, but he’s sitting there while you try to have a romantic meal? I sort of picture it feeling similar to when someone has a guitar and takes it out to play for you, but then the song lasts a little too long and then you’re not sure how much longer you can hold an interested smile before giving them the subliminal message that it’s gotten weird in an uncomfortable way.

I mean, I’d be good for two or three short diddy’s TOPS, and then I’d be like “So no, for real, is this guy staying through dessert? Because I’d really like to put my house pants on sometime soon so I can let the pasta expand and get ready for the chocolate.” 

7. Learn calligraphy so you can create incredible love letters for him/her.

Case in point. 
Question: can anyone ever actually read calligraphy? I thought that this was just something we all thought was pretty, like Sofia Vergara, but didn't actually understand. Am I alone here? Because I can’t tell you the last time I understood anything written on the Bill of Rights. I mean, for as long as it took them to put that thing together, you’d think it’d be easier to read!  

Also, this would go hand-in-hand with the hobby conversation from Romance Item #1 above. If CB has enough time to learn calligraphy, perhaps he has enough time to think of something not lame to show his affection. 


8. Give her one Hershey's Kiss. Give her one thousand Hershey's Kisses. Remove all the little paper strips (that say "Kisses" on them) from a couple hundred Hershey's Kisses. Fill a little jewelry box with them. Wrap 'em up and present them to her. Write a clever certificate explaining that the little paper slips are coupons.

After throwing up a little in my mouth, I really thought this one through and realized that it might be the worst romance tip yet. First of all, giving someone one thousand Hersey’s Kisses pieces of paper is like the love equivalent of when people put those sparkle bombs in the party envelopes, and so when you open your mail, there’s, like, one billion pieces of glitter all over your rug.

Also, please don’t give me paper you ripped off of chocolate candy. Just give me the candy. Are you new here? 

9. Select a theme for the weekend based on a type of movie. (It could be a film genre, like westerns, science fiction or musicals; or it could be based on a favorite actor or character in a movie.) Rent three movies that match the theme and then: Rent costumes that match the theme! Exercise your creativity and sense of fun with a little fantasy!

Don’t do this. Also, if someone ever made me act out a science fiction or western, I’d probably break up with them over the mere fact that we clearly have no common interests.

However, I will admit that I played this one out in my head, just for laughs, to see if it’d actually work. 

For example, letting me watch “When Harry Met Sally” and then taking me to Washington Square Park while I wear long khaki shorts and a blue cardigan could be fun. And also not outside of my normal wardrobe.

However, it’d probably have to end there, because otherwise we’d just be walking all over New York City while CB says stuff like “Pecan piiiiiiiiiiiiie” and I’m really annoying when we order food. And then we’d both get tired of it after about 15 minutes, realize we were all the way in the city anyway, head over to Beth and Matt’s to hang out and play Cranium, and call it a day. Romance lost, moment ruined.


10. Buy an extra bag of Valentine Conversation Heart candies and save them for use six months later.

And then after you do that, call your dentist because you will break all of your teeth. For real. Have you eaten a candy heart on a normal day? Those things are challenging. Leave ‘em in a bag for 6 months and you better have the oral surgeon on speed dial.

I’m just saying.

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So perhaps it’s just me, but I need to hazard a guess that I’m not the only one who thinks some time alone with someone you love and some dessert thrown in there for good measure is really all a person needs in life. No?

But you tell me. What are you all doing for the day that love calls home? 

54 comments:

  1. Crying with laughter. The piano player one threw me straight over the edge. Oh my Lord, that is SO DAMN FUNNY!!!

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  2. You are brilliant! Just the right amount of snark and practicality. I however prefer to celebrate Mardi Gras and ignore Valentine's Day.

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    1. See, and this is where your brilliance outshines mine. While I'm busy worrying about Valentine's Day, you're celebrating MARDI GRAS! Genius.

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  3. I'm on board with all of your critique except the one about a "theme weekend".

    A common romantic trope is the fantasy, role-playing, and costumes. The man puts on a cowboy hat and a button down shirt (with jeans). The woman puts on long skirts and pretends she needs to hire a gun slinger to save the family from cattle rustlers. Only... how does she pay him? The farm's broke and there's no money to spare....

    Similar variations work for Sci Fi (tell me more about these 'human mating rituals') Spy stories (we have ways of making you talk), Urban Fantasy (a good vampire must love her maker before he changes her over) etc etc....

    Like most "add some spice" it won't work for all couples. I can only imagine the horror stories in the wake of those that tried out "something new" after reading 50 Shades of Grey. But for some it might be kind of fun.

    That said... Do NOT rent the costumes. Yeah. You don't want to argue about whether or not you should get back your security deposit after an evening of "romance".

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    1. Something tells me that you have experience that needs to immediately be turned into a blog post, stat.

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    2. If this is an invitation to write a guest post for you then I can say:
      http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ekeELle5g-o

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    3. Hahahaha...I love that show!

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  4. I love love, too. I get more excited about Valentine's Day than I should. I don't actually care about romantic gestures or gratuitous gifts, but I DO love baking treats, buying tiny, cute gifts from the $1 bins at Target, putting them in pretty bags, and giving them out on the big day.

    Dorktastic.

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    1. Oooh, I love your Target $1 bin idea! Now I know what I'll be doing next year. :-)

      I'm glad that I'm not alone on this one!

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  5. Well, I'm working... Dragon is not pleased, but this is also kind of his fault. Apparently we're doing something in the morning? I'm not really sure. There was talk of making macaroons. It's all very confusing. Blog post with more details coming tomorrow.

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  6. Hahahahahah this is amazing! All of these suggestions were totally stupid. A piano player IN your house? No. Calligraphy? Impossible to read. Also, a stupid hobby to learn how to write it. Just no. Tiny scraps of paper? How about you kiss me anyway, without a scrap of paper. And those conversation hearts are disgusting. Fun to read, like the Taco Bell hot sauce. But not for eating.

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  7. A. When Harry Met Sally is one of my all-time favorite movies.

    B. My nod to Valentine's Day will be wearing my anatomically-correct heart pin. (I'm a doctor, which makes it slightly less creepy.)

    C. Love the idea of ”house pants”!

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  8. Yah, I don't get this list at ALL! Who comes up with this stuff? I mean, I can see how someone somewhere might find those things romantic, but did they honestly think them through? I mean, how impractical and just...uncomfy for most people. The thing that threw me for the biggest loop was thinking about RENTING costumes for a weekend of love. I mean...eww! I'd go all germaphobe. I won't go into details, but the point of a romantic weekend is romance which means...stuff...which means why would I want to wear an outfit other people wore to achieve the same results?!?! And would I truly believe they were clean??!?! Isn't that like hotel sheets? You better trust the chain or...DO.NOT.GO.THERE. because the bedbugs or ...other things... will gross you out or eat you alive! *shivers* Yah, maybe I'm being a bit dramatic, but seriously, where were make a homemade Valentine or write a poem on that list? What about love notes? Why did it have to be dress up, stalker and math equation related? Why did it have to be Martha Stewart level craft ideas? I would seriously like to know what these gurus of romance were on...and then point them in the direction of a good mental hospital! Just saying...

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    1. Hahah right? Hahahah I'm laughing out loud, I totally agree about not wanting to re-wear someone else's outfit....

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    2. *shivers* Just the thought makes me want to take a shower! GROSS!!

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  9. please don’t give me paper you ripped off of chocolate candy. Just give me the candy. Are you new here?

    AMEN!


    Also, I'm laughing hysterical because I do that house pants thing. What? Doesn't EVERYONE??? They don't? LIARS!!!

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  10. You nailed it! Do people seriously do these things? If so, I hope I don't know any of them. A big production? Are you kidding me?

    Yeah, telling each other Happy Valentine's Day and maybe some chocolate is enough for me. With a kiss thrown in if I'm having a good day.

    Stopping by from SITS.

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    1. Right?? I'm with you.

      And thanks for stopping by from SITS! Hope you come again!

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  11. NOPE.

    Here's a realistic list:
    1. Make mini English Muffin pizzas in the toaster oven for your lady (or mans). If you also shop for all the ingredients yourself - panties be droppin'.
    2. Shovel the snow and say: "No thanks!" cheerfully when help is pathetically, half-hardheartedly offered.
    3. Let the lady choose the Netflix movie. ALWAYS.
    4. Get up at 7:30AM on the weekends and take the dogs out and feed their needy little asses while lady-pants sleeps in.
    5. Tell her you love her even when she is wearing a soup stained tank top; wrinkled, ill fitting pajama bottoms and is covered in stinky psoriasis medication.

    I don't want: shitty candy, other people involved, clothing involving wires, garbage (Hershey's kiss wrappers?), to leave the house, to be poisoned (dry ice - I'd try and eat and/or touch it), to die in a revolving door accident.

    (PS My list should be adhered to year round to propagate a healthy, happy relationship. Valentine's Day can suck it.)

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    1. I love this list WAY more!!!! And agree that it should be adhered to year-round. That's a recipe for success!

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  12. If you need a good toaster oven English Muffin pizza recipe - let me know. My husband has a goodie!

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  13. Fan-frickin-tastic!!!! I absolutely loved this! Stopping by from SITS and this was a great way to start my morning. Almost put my coffee to shame. Almost. I will most definitely be stopping by again. Happy SITS day!

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    1. So glad you liked it, thanks for visiting!!!

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  14. Dressing up for a meal at home wouldn't work for me, either. I am home, ergo I must be comfy. Evening gowns? Not so comfy last time I checked. :)

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  15. Very funnily interesting post. I love cuddling in bed with my husband... all the time not just Vals...
    It does not happen as often as I would have loved it though.
    HAPPY SITS DAY!

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  16. Funny FUNNY! Love number seven...Happy SITS day!

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  17. OMG! Wish I had found your blog sooner. So funny. I too, run for the sweatpants immediately after walking in the door! Evening gowns - ha! Happy SITS Day!

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    1. Thanks so much for stopping by, I hope you'll come again! You KNOW there will be follow-up when I actually WEAR the dresses. :-)

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  18. This is hilarious! I am just like you with the sweat pants as soon as I walk in the front door. And the pianist one made me actually laugh out loud. Happy SITS day, congrats on being featured :)

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    1. Haha thanks! Thanks for stopping by!

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  19. Too funny. I had to hide my laughter because I don't have time to share the post with my husband. Gotta go to work. Enjoy your SITS Day.

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    1. Haha I'm glad you liked it!! Thanks for stopping by!

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  20. Happy SITS Day! This is hilarious and needs to be published somewhere!!
    I could not stop laughing! I'm the lame one that will try and do the movie theme date.

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    1. Thanks so much!!! Haha I'm glad you enjoyed it!

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  21. HAhaha. I needed a good laugh this morning. Love your blog humor! Happy SITS Day!

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    1. Thanks so much, glad you enjoyed it!

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  22. Now see? THIS is why I adore you... I absolutely GET it. You literally had me laughing through the entire post. I could go on and on about relating to each one, but lets just say: YES!!!!
    However... I am a HUGE fan of The Meg Ryan films and know every single word and scene by heart. (Sick. I know.) SO- for the sake of all that is pure and holy... your reference in the park is probably meant to be associated with the award winning "You've Got Mail". Now, you could also go with the Empire state building, which would be PERFECT for this post, seeing as the anticipatory climax was meeting on that fateful Valentine's Day... in Sleepless In Seattle. BUT- if you really want to stay with When Harry Met Sally... the New Year's edition post would be a good fit. ;)

    My work here is done.

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    1. Oh my God, we're about to have a rom-com geek-off. Ok, I hear what you're saying (and I love all of those movies to the point of annoyance to those around me - namely CB), but in "When Harry Met Sally" they did walk through Central Park during a few montages, and when they were at the museum and he was saying "Pecan Piiiiiiiiiie" I just used a little creative license.

      We're losers.

      When Harry Met Sally and Sleepless in Seattle tie for my favorite movies, though I think I can literally recite every word from Sleepless, while there may be a scene or two where I stumble a bit in When Harry Met Sally.

      God I'm cool.

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  23. I used to think that anything was better than the card my husband bought on his way home and signed in the driveway. Now I'm not so sure about that!!

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    1. Haha your husband can thank me later. :-)

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  24. You are an amazing writer. Even though I HATE Valentine's Day, I thoroughly enjoyed reading this post.

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    1. Oh thank you so much!!! That's so nice of you to say, I'm glad you enjoyed it!

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  25. Thanks for a good laugh. I am glad to have discovered your blog!

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    1. I'm glad you discovered it, too! Hope you come again!

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  26. Are you trying to insinuate that marching bands are not romantic? Because marching bands are hella romantic! Especially if you can get a marching band to learn the Thong Song. Just try it before you knock it. That's all. :-)

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    1. Haha I stand corrected! Especially if they learn the Thong Song. :-)

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  27. Oh, you are cracking me up! Happy SITS day, late!

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